18 and Dressed to Kill! The Life of You

18 and Dressed to Kill! The Life of You

The Life of you

My beautiful little cousin is 18 years old and has exhibited a quality that looks better on than any designer label I have ever seen. It fits all different shapes and sizes, you can wear it to any occasion like prom, the store, church.

Yes its that versatile. And guess what?  It cost no money, just a change in how one thinks! Want to know what it is?


When I read this I was thrown back in amazement and admiration. Check out this status shared by her mommy lol Momma taught her well 🙂

“Today my 18 year old daughter had a date and he showed up without his debit card and he was late. So my daughter held the door for him so he could leave. When I asked her why he was gone she said,  ‘I don’t go into my pocket for a date, and my time is valuable. If he wants to date me he needs to come prepared and respect my time. I don’t care how cute he is. I am a beautiful girl so him being cute means nothing to me.’

I told her how proud I was of her, and explained that she did something grown women could not or would not have done, because they would have feared he would not have ever called them again. So she said ‘I never was concerned about that, I am a beautiful girl and I know I am worth something.’ The story ends with him calling back, apologizing and her telling him where he went wrong…. and him asking her out again. She said ‘We will see, let me check my schedule I will get back with you.’ “

18 and dressed to kill. What is she killing? 

  • Esteem issues
  • Insecurity
  • Lack of worth
  • Disrespect
  • Society’s way of thinking and so much more


If only I had a mind set like that and lived it at 18 I definitely would not have experienced much of the pain I put myself through. Ladies guys will only do what we allow them, they will only talk to us how we allow them to talk to us and they will only respect our bodies time, mind, emotions if we respect it for ourselves.

Make a mind change today and begin to think of your self for who you really are –> Beautiful, worthy in Christ alone, Smart, and so much more. You were not designed to give a man your body other than your husband, to allow anybody to call you a “B”, or to take care of a man. your not his mother! But you are designed to be a young woman after Gods heart, designed to have a gentle and quiet spirit, designed to set the atmosphere with your kind heart and beautiful personality. You are designed to encourage and build this generation, to be a help mate one day to the Kingdom man God will send to you.

Proverbs 31:10A capable, intelligent, and virtuous woman—who is he who can find her? She is far more precious than jewels and her value is far above rubies or pearls.”

The baddest Chick this earth has ever seen is a Woman of God who knows her worth in Christ. Know it…Live it! When we make Jesus Christ our # 1 guy, He will give us all we need 🙂 He is doing it for me and I bet he is doing it for this young lady right here. Wouldn’t you say? 😉

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Bianca Shurn, 18

“I’m tired of women not being respected by men and I’m tired of us not respecting ourselves. Thank you for blessing me with your blog! I don’t think I would understand how dating works and how to approach the subject without it. I hope someone else gets something from it”- Bianca



Ms. Bianca I sure appreciate you and how you display respect. Keep showing your worth and God is going to bless you beyond your wildest dreams. This short story is just the beginning of a life’s journey of integrity and learning to love the person God created. It’s not only helping me but its going to help so many other young ladies gain respect and esteem for themselves. Love you foxy girl!

WAIT. before you leave visit my next post on self esteem! My desire is that we women walk away with a healthy view of self and to understand where our esteem lies. This next message was given to me after I made this post but it came just in time. It has changed and is still changing me from the inside out. Click here … I’m too Good for Him! When does “Self -esteem” Become Pride??

The Life of You

Hey ladies! One thing I have learned in life is that real reaches real and one woman’s truth has the power to set may women free. I’m starting something new, something powerful, a new column titled ” The Life of You!” Do you have a story to tell? One that will encourage another young lady and help her be set free? One thing is for sure, we are all wired the same and one woman’s testimony can be used as another woman’ s weapon against the enemy that will break the strongholds that has been holding her captive

I would like your title to be your age and the subject. For example “17 and struggling” or “28 with purpose”. Hope to hear from you! Age DOES NOT matter. Email me and lets talk details, info@sheabundantly.com. Your story will be featured here for the world to read.”
To see your story and others visit ‘The Life of You’ in the topics section

Britany Jones

Brittany Jones is an inspirational writer and speaker for young women. Her passion is to empower young women to live their best life by knowing their self-worth and the power of sexual Integrity.

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