Do you like being single? Why or why not?
Have you ever felt like the odd ball when you are not in a relationship? As if you are missing out on life? I have felt that way before. And because of that I made sure that I kept someone in my life even when it caused me to settle for less than what I am worth ( which was 100% of the time).
What I have learned over the years is that being single, not married/booed up, is very crucial to life and one of the most important times of life. Being single is not something to run from, its not a disease, its a calling. You are called to do something right now and it involves just you and God. Here are 5 reasons why I enjoy being single and you should too.
1. You will get closer to Jesus.
This is the most beautiful thing about being single. We get to know the Creator of all things, our creator, on the most deepest level. This is a time where you and God can spend as much time together as you want without having to divide your time up amongst others things (we will get to that in a bit). He molds us into the young woman we are to be, one with a heart for God, one that is kind, loving, patient and not a silly woman. He teaches us His word and how to have standards, not giving our body away before marriage and how to be talked to and treated as a woman. He teaches and trains us on how to listen to his voice and how to trust Him. He knows our future, we don’t. So its important to stick with the one who knows it all. He will teach us how to not choose a man who just wants to use us or has no purpose with us and will train us on how to tell if a man is truly a man after Gods heart. The worst thing we can do is marry the wrong man. Its a must that we learn His voice without distractions.
2. You get to know what your purpose is here on earth.
God did not put us here on earth just to be somebody’s wife and have babies. He has a plan for us here. What God showed me in my life and in so many others lives is that we are not doing what we are suppose to be doing in pleasing God because we are caught up in the wrong relationship trying to please them and more than likely ending up in a sinful state. It wasn’t until I finally had enough pain and hurt that I got out of a long term relationship, that wasn’t going anywhere, and that’s when God opened up my eyes and gave me so much clarity on what my purpose is. I truly feel like this is when life began for me. I felt useful and satisfied. I knew what to do with my days instead of waking up feeling lost. God has a sure purpose for you. Many of us are suppose to be writing books, composing song, starting businesses, mentoring young women, becoming an artist etc., all for the glory of God. But we have been too distracted by a dude to see what we are to be doing.
” Loneliness is not the absence of a relationship but the absence of purpose”
3. You get to learn who you are.
Have you ever been is a room and felt isolated or awkward because you didn’t know anyone there? You had no one to joke with or relate to etc.? Well picture going through life that way, always being around strangers except the stranger is actually you! Not knowing who you are as a young woman will cause a lot of unwanted and unnecessary problems in life. You will always find yourself looking for validation in others, asking others for their opinions and never being confident to make decisions on your own. Learn what you like and don’t like, what makes you happy or sad, if you should go to college and if so what to major in. When we don’t know who we are, it don’t make sense to get into a relationship with someone and try to figure out who they are. We end up spending so much time on them and realize that self is just as lost as the day before we got in the relationship.
4. You are able to live with less distractions.
I heard it said that when you are married you have more distractions, delightful distractions, but still distractions. When you marry you are not accountable to just self only but now you have a husband to cater to, a home to manage and kids to take care of as well. you wont be able to just up and leave whenever you want like you can when single. One of the things I LOVE about being single is that the only person I have to take care of is me!! When I’m dressed everybody is dressed. When I eat everybody has ate. I get to sleep on both sides of the bed lol If I dont shave my legs today its ok cause its just me lol ( girl you know what im talking about) Oh and guess what? I get to choose how my money is spent YESSS! I save of course but it feels so good to walk in a store and choose to buy a couple of outfits if I wanted to.
God desires our single season to be spent with Him but if you have children don’t dare be discouraged or feel disqualified from what ever He has for you. Take care of your responsibilities and if you wait on God he will make sure the man for you will be good for you and your children. Whether you are single with or without children, God saw it before you did and has a plan just for your life. Rejoice girl and raise your beautiful babies.
5. In the words of Mary J. Blige, “No More Drama”
I don’t have to worry about his feelings on top of mine! If he mad, sad etc. Now in no way am I saying have a cold heart and don’t care for others because when the right man comes you will have to spend that time learning each others heart and sacrificing feelings and emotions. When he is sent by God its going to be all good, trust! But there is a season for that. When you are in a relationship prematurely this can be total hell. And it was for me. Can anyone relate to this? Freedom feels so good!
Its a time for everything, a time to be single and a time to be married. Don’t rush out of this season too soon and miss out on the miraculous things God wants to do in your life right now. Enjoy this to the fullest because once you are married, you will never be single again. I am loving this life!!!!! You should too 🙂