Despite of what you think or how you feel, you were not made to just sit by the window all day and wait for God to send you a man. You have a divine assignment on your life.

As a woman, I know we desire to be held, to be loved etc. Many of us are looking for a guy to fill that void of not having a father figure in our lives mentally and emotionally.

When I look back over my younger days I didn’t realize that I was always looking for someone to be there for me. I didnt realize until I got older and more mature in christ that being single (not married) is a blessing and actually the best seat in the house.

I hear so many young ladies saying, ” I cant wait to be married”, as if thats all there is to us beautiful creatures. I want to show you that being single is not a curse but a blessing. 

“It’s just an emotion”


I use to feel that life really wasn’t happening until I had some one to be with and get married. I would always start off my thinking “when I get married” or “I cant wait to get married so I can do this or do that”.  I didn’t realize that I wasn’t even enjoying my life now, but always worrying about who I will be with. 

Don’t be so focused on wanting to have a man in your life. Why are we so afraid of being single?

The enemy tries to tell us that we are alone, confusing us with our emotions as if we would never be with anyone. As a result, we try to get someone and hold on to them,settling in most cases.

I am learning that emotions are just emotions nothing more nothing less, a temporary feeling. Its ok to feel it. Accept it for what it is, have your moment but don’t let it control you and make you go against sound judgment. For so long I gave into my emotions, but all that did was cause serious pain in my life. I felt powerless when it came to them because they seemed so strong and my heart felt so heavy, I was a slave to them. What we don’t realize is that we have power over our emotions, not the other way around.

Just because we feel something does not mean that’s what it really is. Where the spirit of the lord is there is true freedom not slavery, 2 Corinthians 3:17. We have so much power and it comes from our father Jesus Christ.

Roman 8:11 ”  And if the Spirit of him who raised Jesus from the dead is living in you, he who raised Christ from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies because of his Spirit who lives in you.”

Ladies did you get that?? If you are saved then the same power that God used to raise Christ from the dead is now LIVING IN YOU!! Wow now that’s some real power that we possess. What’s a simple emotion to power like this? I know one thing it is…Defeated.

Life doesn’t start until you get married. WRONG! Life is happening right now. I didn’t realize how important it was to be sing