Girls, Lets Talk about Sex !! Pt. 1

I wish when I was younger someone would have sat me down and talked to me about sex. I wish when I was younger someone would have been real with me and schooled me on the game. I wish when I was younger I would have known that sex before marriage was not the plan God has for his sons and daughters.

I gave my virginity away at the age of 15 and I can honestly say it was the worse decision I have made in my entire life. It was the summer before my sophomore year in high school and my mom was in the hospital for domestic violence.

Witnessing that episode, you can already imagine that I was going through something much deeper than what my mind could comprehend. My mom was going through and my dad was the cause of it, so what did I do?? Turn to a boy, subconsciously looking for a man’s love and affection that I never had.

I didn’t know I was opening the door for the devil to come right in. I didn’t know how valuable I was and that my body was a temple, Gods resting place. I surely was not thinking that my virginity was sacred and it was only meant for my husband on my wedding night, Gods master plan!!

Do you know once you show the devil what you like, he will use it as his best weapon against you?! I was giving away the cookies, my precious body and soul to this guy, trying to find love, but all I found was lust and hurt, and the cycle continued.

LETS GET REAL

Ladies can you honestly say that you felt whole, secure and at ease giving yourself away? Did you think that he loved you so much and you knew you two were going to be together only to realize that was far from the truth? Sex is spiritual and emotional, the last thing it is is physical. Have you ever been cool with a guy, dated a guy, but once y’all had sex everything changed? Once I let a guy touch me, I felt an emotional attachment to him, clingy. Even if I didn’t want to talk to him anymore, made up my mind that I was done,

“Girl I’m done with him foreal this time we are through,”

I felt like I just could not let him go. WHY? Because when we had sex he dropped some of his soul in mine and I dropped some of my soul in his. This is called a soul tie. Soul ties are when two souls come together in the spiritual realm. This is what draws two married people together, but if formed out of marriage, fornication, it is destructive to your body, soul and spirit. All it takes is one time 🙁

Depiction of a woman with many soul ties

Have you ever wondered why a woman who gets beat by her man always runs back to him? Well this is why. Do you really think she enjoys getting sucker punched?? No, she is dealing with something much deeper then this physical world, soul ties, and that’s what we struggle with when we have sex out of marriage.

Every time we lay to have sex with someone, we connect with them, not just physically but spiritually, and with our souls. Our souls consist of our minds/thoughts, our desires and our emotions. A negative soul tie is nothing but a bridge for demons to pass between the two involved, this is the spiritual aspect.  Throughout life we all have unknowingly accumulated evil spirits by allowing them in through an “open door”  like sin, weak moments/ circumstances in life and just plain ignorance. Once they come in they wreck our souls (mind, desires, and emotions) and it reflects in our actions.  Think of the soul as the steering wheel, it makes the car go where you want it and that’s what they attach to, to get you to go where they want you to go……destruction!

This is why Jesus comes to save SOULS! He wants to take over and lead you to everlasting life. So when we have sex with some one, the demons they have become ours and vice versa, WOW! Our minds and thoughts become clouded and distorted, unable to make clear and sound decisions and our emotions go crae crae! This is what we mostly feel as women, while men may express it through distorted desires but both sexes go through it all whether we see it or not.

Think about it, before the sex your emotions were cool, but afterwards if he did something to you it felt ten times worse. The hurt is deeper and the anger is more intense etc. Oh, and don’t let him start talking to another girl, now you are ready to shoot! Don’t forget the girls he had before you. Not only are you wrestling with his soul/demons but their soul/demons too. Wow again!

This also creates a thing called “False Love” because now our soul (emotions) is connected to the guy and we feel like we cant live without him, becoming stuck in relationships that we would otherwise not be in if we were in our right mind!!

Illegally Married

What this soul tie means is when you have sex with someone you MARRY THEM!! That’s how God designed it.