Girls, Lets Talk about Sex!! Pt. 2

Girls, Lets Talk about Sex!! Pt. 2

If you have not read Pt. 1 do so now

Girls, Lets Talk about Sex Pt. 1

1Corinthians 6:18-20

Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.
 As we have heard many people say “sin is sin” but look closer at verse 18

“ Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body ”

Check out what John MacArthur writes:

I believe he is saying that, although sexual sin is not necessarily the worst sin, it is the most unique in its character. It rises from within the body bent on personal gratification. It drives like no other impulse and when fulfilled affects the body like no other sin. It has a way of internally destroying a person that no other sin has. Because sexual intimacy is the deepest uniting of two persons, its misuse corrupts on the deepest human level. That is not a psychological analysis but a divinely revealed fact. Sexual immorality is far more destructive than alcohol, far more destructive than drugs, far more destructive than crime.”(The MacArthur New Testament Commentary: 1 Corinthians, 151).

And by the way, fleeing from sexual immorality is not just talking about intercourse but also oral sex, pornography, masturbation, sex with animals, homosexuality, & even the lustful fantasies we have in our minds that we think are harmless. God says even if we lust in our hearts its the same thing, Matthew 5:28. Sexual fantasy is a conception of sin, waiting to be born a new born baby.

Wow, that’s a lot to wrap your head around huh?

They Really Don’t Care Like We Think They Do

Ok ladies, this may be a really hard truth but here we go. One thing I had to realize, and I pray you do too, is that these boys really don’t care about you, let alone your SOUL!!  They don’t even know their own worth, and truthfully how could they possibly know yours and treat you like a queen that you are if they don’t know their own? They are simply out to get theirs, to please themselves sexually and to say that they had you. If you think they have never talked about you to their friends, you are sadly mistaken. I can’t tell you how many times my males friends have told me things detail by detail, her scent, what she did & showing me countless pictures of naked girls in their phone. Ladies this is real. I had to come to terms that I was used;I let them use me, he was not my husband, God did not approve, I was outside His will, and that is a dangerous place to be.

Ok but what if your saying this:

“I know he loves me. I have not slept with anyone but him. We have been together for 5, 6 years. Yes we have sex but that’s going be my husband anyway, he cares about me”

But can we take a moment to be honest with ourselves? If he cared about you, if he knew your worth, he would wait for you!!  He would get closer to God, read His word and obey it to be pleasing in Gods sight, not mans. He would find out how to really love you, how to love you like Christ loves the church, how to be selfless towards you like Christ was when He died on the cross. He would want to protect you from hurt not be the cause of it. He would want to be your kingdom husband, wanting to show you off as a beautiful linen garment.

God Desires to be First

Ladies its a beautiful thing to start living to please God and not man. If you believe he is your future husband and God confirms it then cool, but he is not now so lets not play like it. Just like you, I desire the affections of a man, to be loved and held, to be told I’m beautiful etc. But we must first learn Gods love. No man can do you like God. They can’t love you, heal you, comfort you, esteem you, hold you, fill you, forgive you, and rescue you like God can. God once said this to me

I’m not going to give you a husband to submit to until you learn to submit to me first”.
God is not going to bless us ladies with a kingdom man, a husband, if we continue to have sex out of marriage. Do you know what we’re really saying to God? We are telling God that He is not first, that we rather please a man sexually than obey and please God, our precious father. That breaks His heart and He longs to be first in our lives.

Exodus 20:5You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God,punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, “

Saved and Still Sexing?

And for those who are saved and still slipping up and having sex, do not feel alone or hide it. EXPOSE the enemy and confide in someone that will point you to the cross. Since the day I got saved  I can not say I have not had slip ups. It’s not Gods will to sin saved or unsaved but its real and God knows it. He knows your struggles. He sees you wanting to do better for Him and keep yourself  for marriage. You Just have to identify your TRIGGERS and flee from them, this is wisdom straight from God. See, the devil was trying to keep me in condemnation. If I messed up I felt I was a failure.

 “ I’m saved I know sex out of marriage is not cool God will never forgive me”

That’s a lie from hell. Being saved does not mean the devil is going to stop tempting you, but understand now you’re his number one target because he knows who your father in heaven is. Remember he use to be one of His angels. He knows that if you really live for God you will defeat him and really be and get all God has for you in this life.

One of the BIGGEST Triggers is living together before marriage. For more about it, visit, Shack’n Aint Crack’n

Begin to know who you are and know there is no condemnation for those in Christ if you walk by the spirit of God, Romans 8:1. When you fall at anything, know Gods love and know his forgiveness. Understand that you are not a failure and never will be as long as you keep believing in Him and striving to be holy. When we are real with God, He is real with us and continues to show us how to be holy one step at a time.

Know that you can run to your father and he will embrace you with open arms. The more you grow, read His word, get closer to Him and become filled with the Holy Spirit, the farther you will be from sin, whatever your sin may be. It’s impossible to defeat sin on your own. You need the Holy Spirit (His power) to overcome it and its a daily filling. Ask Him to fill you .

When We Know better We Do Better 

I have come to realize that God is calling me higher and He is calling you too. He has a purpose for me and I can no longer let the enemy keep coming in and steal my joy, my peace, and my destiny. I must wait until he sends my kingdom man and we say I do, because the best sex you and I will ever have is in the marriage God formed, in the home God gave you both, and in the bed he said is undefiled. 🙂

Sex is a good thing and its a gift from God but it is only to be opened in the marriage bed and after experiencing the negative consequences from having sex outside marriage, I see why we are to wait! God tells us to wait not to hinder us but to protect us. Keep your gift a gift and not a “hand me  down” that looses it value every use.

I hope that this discussion has been a blessing to you because it has been a true blessing to me. Ladies we are in this together, and as I pray for you please pray for me that I continue to overcome temptations, giving my whole body to God as His personal temple.


Brittany J

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Wait! There’s More

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Britany Jones

Brittany Jones is an inspirational writer and speaker for young women. Her passion is to empower young women to live their best life by knowing their self-worth and the power of sexual Integrity.

  • Kanesha

    June 1, 2012 at 3:49 am

    WOW!!!! This was truly a blessing britt alot to take in and share with many..loved it thanks God bless

  • Anonymous

    June 17, 2012 at 1:08 pm

    Man words can't even describe how this and the previous blog has impacted me. I too am saved and fall short of my god seems as the more I try the harder I fall and the more I try to get closer to my god the more sin I commit. Temptation is something else lol and it seems so easy to do the WRONG thing so it seems like since its easy its the way to go! I know god knows my heart and knows that I love and have faith in him. I also know that I can't keep making the same mistake and abusing Gods forgivness!! Thank you for your inspiration all of your blog part one and two are a portion of what I'm going through right now and has truly touched me.keep on inspiring girl 🙂 <3

  • Anonymous

    July 12, 2012 at 3:45 am

    This has been an inspiration as all of your blogs and FB stats have been. This is a serious issue and I'm glad ur addressing it. I have my moments where I second guess my waiting until marriage(rebirth from losing my virginity). I know its the devil trying to alter my mind, alter the walk I have with God. I decided I will WALK tall and continue to save myself, I will seek Gods face as I continue to strive after obeying his commands. I haven't been in a relationship, or really in a situation where I was tempted in a long time and I'm grateful for that! Although that doesn't mean anything,the devil still tries me. He is busy ladies and its our time to call him out, call him on his low blows by living for God and allowing his will to be the only way. Plain and simple, you are blessed with a gift and every time you've reached me Brit. I see how much you've grown, matured and I LOVE IT! I love you and I admire all that God has made/making out of u. Keep on spreading the word, we NEED it! God bless ur gifts!! 'E'

  • Brittany M. Jones

    October 3, 2012 at 10:46 pm

    THANK YOU for reading..yes it was such a struggle for me but as i got closer (and continue to get closer) to god He gave me more wisdom and understanding. I understood who he was a little more and how much He loves me. and trust me as you find out your worth and value you will really began to see and understand that you aint got time for that mess lol you are made to do kingdom building and the closer you get to Him the less of a hold satan has on you..satan only has power if we give it to him..:) love you and thanks for sharing

  • Brittany M. Jones

    October 3, 2012 at 10:48 pm

    thank you for reading it means a lot Nesha Love ya

  • Brittany M. Jones

    October 3, 2012 at 10:48 pm

    E i jus love you…thank God for it all..words cant express how your encouragement
    has helped me!!! THANK YOU

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