If you have not read Pt. 1 do so now
Girls, Lets Talk about Sex Pt. 1
” Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. “
As we have heard many people say “sin is sin” but look closer at verse 18
“ Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body ”
Check out what John MacArthur writes:
I believe he is saying that, although sexual sin is not necessarily the worst sin, it is the most unique in its character. It rises from within the body bent on personal gratification. It drives like no other impulse and when fulfilled affects the body like no other sin. It has a way of internally destroying a person that no other sin has. Because sexual intimacy is the deepest uniting of two persons, its misuse corrupts on the deepest human level. That is not a psychological analysis but a divinely revealed fact. Sexual immorality is far more destructive than alcohol, far more destructive than drugs, far more destructive than crime.”(The MacArthur New Testament Commentary: 1 Corinthians, 151).
And by the way, fleeing from sexual immorality is not just talking about intercourse but also oral sex, pornography, masturbation, sex with animals, homosexuality, & even the lustful fantasies we have in our minds that we think are harmless. God says even if we lust in our hearts its the same thing, Matthew 5:28. Sexual fantasy is a conception of sin, waiting to be born ..like a new born baby.
Wow, that’s a lot to wrap your head around huh?
They Really Don’t Care Like We Think They Do
Ok ladies, this may be a really hard truth but here we go. One thing I had to realize, and I pray you do too, is that these boys really don’t care about you, let alone your SOUL!! They don’t even know their own worth, and truthfully how could they possibly know yours and treat you like a queen that you are if they don’t know their own? They are simply out to get theirs, to please themselves sexually and to say that they had you. If you think they have never talked about you to their friends, you are sadly mistaken. I can’t tell you how many times my males friends have told me things detail by detail, her scent, what she did & showing me countless pictures of naked girls in their phone. Ladies this is real. I had to come to terms that I was used;I let them use me, he was not my husband, God did not approve, I was outside His will, and that is a dangerous place to be.
Ok but what if your saying this:
“I know he loves me. I have not slept with anyone but him. We have been together for 5, 6 years. Yes we have sex but that’s going be my husband anyway, he cares about me”
But can we take a moment to be honest with ourselves? If he cared about you, if he knew your worth, he would wait for you!! He would get closer to God, read His word and obey it to be pleasing in Gods sight, not mans. He would find out how to really love you, how to love you like Christ loves the church, how to be selfless towards you like Christ was when He died on the cross. He would want to protect you from hurt not be the cause of it. He would want to be your kingdom husband, wanting to show you off as a beautiful linen garment.
God Desires to be First
Ladies its a beautiful thing to start living to please God and not man. If you believe he is your future husband and God confirms it then cool, but he is not now so lets not play like it. Just like you, I desire the affections of a man, to be loved and held, to be told I’m beautiful etc. But we must first learn Gods love. No man can do you like God. They can’t love you, heal you, comfort you, esteem you, hold you, fill you, forgive you, and rescue you like God can. God once said this to me
“I’m not going to give you a husband to submit to until you learn to submit to me first”.
God is not going to bless us ladies with a kingdom man, a husband, if we continue to have sex out of marriage. Do you know what we’re really saying to God? We are telling God that He is not first, that we rather please a man sexually than obey and please God, our precious father. That breaks His heart and He longs to be first in our lives.
Exodus 20:5“You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God,punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, “