How I put it into Action
If your trying to do this right and wait till marriage to have sex, you cant keep doing the same things that got you there in first place.
For example, spending the night together or living together. I don’t care how saved you are or holy ghost filled, the flesh will always be flesh and you cant keep tempting it and it expecting it to obey Gods word. I learned that the hard way. The devil cant wait for you to slip up so he can go in for the kill. That’s his job! All the devil needs is time and opportunity and eventually he will get you because you not guarding yourself. So I stopped spending the night with Him. I cant be tempted if he is not laying there.
Honestly, and God is my witness, I stop kissing on the lips. Say whaaaaattt?? lol When you have spent so many years falling, doing the same things over and over, living a life of emotional hell and crying every other day over a guy,(like me) you are going to do whatever it takes to not go back to that pain and bondage and to living a luke warm life. I don’t know about you but kissing did lead to other things. Mom and dad was right! If it wasn’t sexual intercourse it was something like it. It could have been feeling on each other, fondling each other or just plain dry humping. Can I keep it real? Our problem now days is cant nobody be real with self and because of that we keep doing the same things over and over, wondering why we keep coming up short every time. God is saying flee from sexual immorality that means ALL of it. So just because it wasn’t intercourse does not mean it wasn’t sexual immorality. I got tired of half stepping it. He called us the Righteousness of God not the “sometimes” Righteous or Righteous “when I want to be” of God. He is coming back for a church with no spot or blemish and when He comes my way I want to hear ” good and faithful servant you may enter my gates of heaven”. And plus, the pastor doesn’t say “you may now kiss the bride” for no reason
A lot of us ladies struggle with taking care of a man. I would pick him up in my car for everything and because of that I became a crutch and he had no motivation to get his own and take care of business like a man should. I hated picking up a man. I wasn’t raised that way and everything was out of order. So I stop allowing him to make me feel bad, because you know their immature ways will do that to keep you settling. I stood on my “No’s”, through God’s strength, and allowed God to change his heart, and He did. Remember ladies why should He get his own and work hard when he can have yours for free? Enough is enough
Begin to study your opponent ( the enemy) and learn his tricks, I call them “triggers”. I have learned what he does to get me to fall so now I do the opposite. He knows if he can get me alone with a guy laid up overnight that there is a high chance we will fall so I don’t do it anymore. It took me awhile to get to this point but once I got it mentally and spiritually there was no going back, no matter how many times I failed.
Words cant even express how my life has changed since I fully placed my heart in Gods hand and stopped settling. I truly have peace, which I didn’t have before. I have peace of mind, not worrying about a man and if he is doing this or doing that. Now I can focus on school and on the ministry He is doing through me. A man is no longer my everything, but God. I can honestly say if there was not a man in my life I would be ok because I have learned that God can fill me with things a man can’t. I don’t depend on a man to make me happy but my joy comes from God and let me tell you, IT FEELS AMMMAAAAZZZZZIIINGGGG!!!
I don’t have to worry about my blessings being hindered. I don’t have to worry about pregnancies, STD’s or another woman! Ladies hide your heart deep in God so that if a young man wants it he will have to go through G