How to Stop Settling! Settling Pt. 2
How to Stop Settling! Settling Pt. 2
For part 1 click here. I Need a Man in My Life! Settling Pt. 1
Settling cost!! And to me the price was not worth it. It cost me my self worth, my time, my respect, my money, many broken hearts, my virginity, my blessings, my sanity, my joy, my peace and most importantly my relationship with the true and living God. For years I settled. If it wasn’t in one area it was in another. But I came to the conclusion that I can’t afford to settle anymore and ladies I believe you cant either.
There came a time where I said enough is enough. I got tired. See ladies the problem today is a lot of us are not tired yet. But when will we start putting our soul first? Our dignity and self respect? Is it worth giving up just to have a man to sleep with or hold us at night, or to go on a date, have some one to text us or tell us good morning every day? Is that man worth your spot in heaven? Eternity with God? Because believe it or not some of the things we are settling for is going to get us nothing but a one way ticket to hell. Is he worth that? umm NO. There was too much hell in my life and I began to desire the abundant life that God promises to me and these are the steps I took to get there.
Steps to Freedom
The first step is to acknowledge where you are. Be honest with yourself. You will never move toward the solution if you’re not acknowledging the problem. To me settling is accepting the bare minimum, accepting less than what you know you deserve. God came to give us life abundantly and if you are with a guy that is hindering you from His blessings, causing you to sin, then more then likely you are settling.
For example, I had to accept the fact that every time I had sex or did anything sexually and not married, I was settling. I was giving up my body for free and not making him appreciate me and recognize my true value. I was saying I’m not worth waiting for, not worth respecting, and I was saying to God ” a relationship with you is not that important to me and I really don’t want to be blessed or see heaven”. That’s really what we are saying when we sin against Him. His word says flee fornication and anytime we are disobedient we forfeit our blessings and invite Gods wrath into our lives.
3. Mental Conditioning
I would say this is the most important and its a DAILY thing. If you don’t reprogram your mind I promise you will end up in the same mess over and over again, an emotional roller coaster. When we settle that means we are not aware of our self worth or how valuable we are. It also shows we don’t know Gods power and who He is in our lives. Settling is telling God He cant do any better and that He doesn’t have the power to actually give us the best. It puts limits on His power.
This is where you need to start meditating on scriptures. Read them until they take root in your heart. So when the enemy tries to lie to you and tell you that what he has for you is good, it will no longer work. The enemy has power over you as long as you don’t know that you have power over him. When you speak Gods word He will began to speak it to you and it will become you. For example, I KNOW my body is a temple so I will no longer defile it. I will get you started but you must began to read His word daily
1 Peter 2:9 ” But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.”
1Corinthians 6:19 “ Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. ”
Ephesians 3:20 “Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us.“
4) Put It Into Action
Want to find out How I put it into action? Click here How to Stop Settling. Settling Pt. 2 (Continued)
Ladies what does it mean to be unequally yoked? For part 3 click here “Unequally Yoked” Settling Pt.3