PEOPLE PEOPLE PEOPLE! Most of our issues seems like it has to do with people!
They did this, ugh they did that, she didn’t do this, they get on my nerves! Have you ever just flat out said” I DON’T LIKE PEOPLE!” Yea me too! What I am learning as I get older is that it takes a conscious effort, patience and energy to learn how to interact with other people, whether it be a cousin, mother, father, or friend. When people would have issues with me, maybe they got offended by something I said but it was never me intentions to hurt them, or whatever the problem, I would just say, ” I don’t have energy to waste on this” and just shut the person out of my life and never really deal with the issue. My motto was “I am the last child so I know what its like to be alone, i’m good solo so I don’t care if I have a single friend, I will rock this life out by myself!”
Wrong! No matter how hard I try to think that, reality is I need people, and so do you! If God wanted us to be alone then He would have just made 1 human being, but instead He has made billions and billions. He created families because He knew that we would need help all the days of our lives. I believe one of the reasons why we can’t pick our family is becasue God wants to teach us how to love a person without having the option to throw them away. He wants us to get a true love in our hearts, to be able to love the unlovable, becasue we ALL have someone in our family that is just hard to love right? To be honest that person may even be you. And when those relationships seem to just fall through, He even blessed us with outside people, friends, peers, mentors and so on.
“You are better off to have a friend than to be all alone, because then you will get more enjoyment out of what you earn. If you fall, your friend can help you up. But if you fall without having a friend nearby, you are really in trouble.” Ecc 4:9-10
We have to get use to the fact that people are not going anywhere, they are everywhere and we must learn how to properly build relationships with others.
1. Communication is key! Be honest no matter what.
Don’t allow issues to build up in your heart against someone and never say anything about it, I have done this multiple times and it sucks! What will happen is you will become bitter towards that person and begin to complain about them which is not fair because you never gave that person the opportunity to even fix the issue, all becasue maybe you were afraid to talk about it, afraid of that persons reaction, or maybe you just didn’t care. You are the one who has to live with your heart’s condtion and you want it to stay clean or else you will become like a clogged sink. That is no way to live.
2. Don’t shut people out over dumb stuff! (There are exceptions )
OK, its so easy to walk away from someone over something dumb, had a small disagreement so now you ready to call it quits. People are not rag dolls. Have you ever thought that maybe they may need you in their lives more than you need them? Now, i’m not saying allow people to run over you and disrespect you and even cause you to sin, NEVER! Love yourself enough to not allow others to disrespect you! But we have to learn how to set boundaries and function with others. If you don’t like something, say it! But if that person just does not care how you feel then maybe that person is not meant to be in your life. It takes a relationship with God to learn who is suppos