We have all lied and for many reasons. It could have been to save self from shame and embarrassment, to get out of trouble and…well, I think those are the main reasons why people lie. Oh, some people lie just because the sun is out ( that means all the time just straight up lying). It sure feels good to escape a potential trap or avoid some serious consequences. Just tell a quick lie and boom you’re home free, so we think!
When we are caught in a situation where we feel the truth is going to cause self or those close to us serious consequences, it is a natural tendency to try to save self or them. We want to cover our own behind because no one likes to feel embarrassed, ashamed or be in trouble. I know this by much experience! If my mom asked me something and I knew the truth would cause her to yell my head off, I would just…lie, or tell the half truth which is still a lie.
There is a scripture in the book of John, and it says:
“You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father’s desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies.” – John 8:44
This scripture tells us plainly that the devil is the originator of lying. He created lies and he is called the father of all lies. He is not even capable of telling a truth.
Every time we lie, not tell the whole truth or twist a truth around to make it sound like it is something that it’s not, we become daughters of the devil. Wow! We become a reflection of the devil and an enemy to God because God is truth.
I made a decision years ago that I would not tell another lie! To be honest I am a HORRIBLE liar anyway. After I lied I would feel super horrible and the God in me would remind me that it was wrong and tell me to do right. Have I fallen since I made this decision? Unfortunately yes, I can remember not telling the whole truth one time and I just knew I failed at that moment.
In becoming SHE Abundantly, integrity is HUGE! (meaning operating and living a real and whole life, telling the truth.)
It hurts God when we lie because, one, lying is sin and sin hurts Him and ultimately separates us from Him (who loves us to death by the way) and two, lying shows our lack of trust in Him!
I remember having a conversation with my self one day after struggling with not telling the whole truth and I just remember feeling so immature and foolish, like “Brittany, you are an adult, why do you still feel the need to lie or hide?” At that moment I realized some things:
- When you lie it shows an insecurity you have inside and trying to cover it up does not help but just makes it worse.
- If you are bold enough to do it or say it then you are bold enough to say you did it, why lie about it?
- Lying is a character flaw and no one will ever trust you if you continue to lie.
- Lying is a sign of immaturity and lack of confidence. (Even if you have to be confident in telling a truth that is going to cause bad consequences to self, it’s better then telling a lie)
Lying brings you no peace because after a lie is told you have to constantly look over your shoulder to keep up with the lie. This character flaw will also cause you to think that every one else is a liar because you are guilty of your own conscience. Now that’s deep! It hurts self and others and it causes strife which makes things worse off then what it already was, making the consequences even greater!
So how can we begin to work on our own hearts, be pleasing to God and live a life of truth and peace? Don’t do or say anything that you know you will be confronted on and tempted to lie about later!
Telling the truth over a lie is a decision we have to make daily. We all know how easy and tempting it is to lie. I mean just the other day I had to tell mys