Married or Wanting to Get Married? Go to Counseling

Married or Wanting to Get Married? Go to Counseling

” Surely you need guidance to wage war, and victory is won through many advisers “ Proverbs 24:6

This scripture is packed with so much power. We need guidance in life and victory is won through much counsel & advice.

Life will be much easier if we take heed or pay attention to instructions from the wise. God gives us much wisdom in his word and through people He called to our lives.

I see a lot of us get into relationships and rush into things. We do what we want, when we want and not really allowing God to counsel us, not accepting correction and direction. So what’s the end result? We end up in a big ole mess, ignoring His wisdom that literally SAVES US from so much trouble.


If you are wanting to get married, before you say “I Do”, go to counseling. Marriage is not natural, it’s super natural and you are going to need a super God and His counsel to have a successful marriage.

Just imagine two people’s souls coming together to become one,  two different personalities, two people raised differently, with past history, past demons, and past hurt. If you both are not virgins on your wedding night, than you have to get divorces before you even get married. You do know that when you have sex with someone you marry them right? (Mark 10:8, Ge 2:24, 1 Co 6:16) A soul tie is created and that’s why God created sex to be had with only one person, to be tied to one soul. Not only do you both have to sort through your own mess but you both are wrestling with other souls that are connected to yours. That’s a war that needs much counsel to win.

You’re comparing your future husband with someone from your past that was never suppose have you. If you’re living together, you are already out of Gods will. You are waking up everyday as if nothing is wrong, knowing that’s not your husband. That’s a war that needs much counsel to win.

It’s not wise to step into something as serious as marriage and not take proper steps to build the right foundation.

To be honest, if you don’t know Christ, I would not advise you to even get married. How would you know how to treat His sacred covenant, His precious union, if you don’t know Him who created it? What’s going to stop you both from cheating, hitting each other, walking out because problems surface? There is no Holy Spirit to help you, no counselor. The devil doesn’t want you to be happy, to get what God has, so he is coming strong after you both. How are you going to defeat him in this spiritual war with no strategy, no guidance, no weapon?

I say this because I want to have abundance in every area in my life, especially in my relationships, and I desire the same for you. Romantic relationships have a big impact on our lives. It involves our emotions, heart, time and eventually our souls and that’s nothing to play with. You don’t want to get married then later find out all this stuff about him and yourself that could have been worked out before you said “I do”.

Go to counseling. I can not say it enough.

“Take good counsel and accept correction, that’s the way to live wisely and well” Proverbs 19:20

Again I say, go to counseling. I’m not talking about counseling from your momma or sister who are bitter about men, and have had every bad relationship and failed marriage. I’m talking about those of God, who have the Holy Spirit and operates according to God’s word and who is going to help you and give instruction on how to stay married. No pastor should marry you if you have not had counseling (my opinion). This is a life long commitment where divorce is not an option except for biblical reasons and even with that, God can restore and foster forgiveness. Take Gods law serious.

Me personally, I desire to do things right. After all these years of doing things on my own, creating my own mess over and over again, I desire to have exactly what God wants me to have. I had to make tough decisions. I had to step back from my relationship and actually allow God to work on me and him. I decided to let God have his way and I won’t go forward until He gives the green light. When you spend so much time with that person every other voice becomes muffled. Step back so you can hear from God to make the best decisions.

It pays to listen to God, to live how he says and not this world, to wait to live together, to wait to have sex. He blesses the obedient 🙂

“How blessed the man you train God, the woman you instruct in your word”  Psalms 94:12 

“Those who disregard discipline despise themselves, but the one who heeds correction gains understanding”  Proverbs 15:32  

I want to give you ladies something to think about and share with you what I have been blessed to know. I know life is real, situations are real but God is real. It’s only by His grace that I am where I am, through ALL my mess (if only you knew lol). Where ever you are, let Him into your life and be encouraged from this day to go forward with direction from Him.

As I pray for you please pray for me as well to do right 🙂 I Hope you were encouraged and have a new look on things. Love you all!!

Brittany M. Jones

“I’ve had many couples tell me their marriage would not have made it without Christian counseling. Take the time to get to know each other and make God your foundation”

Tara Newton,
Co-pastor of Abundant Life Worship Center
Kansas City, Kansas

Britany Jones

Brittany Jones is an inspirational writer and speaker for young women. Her passion is to empower young women to live their best life by knowing their self-worth and the power of sexual Integrity.

2 Comments
  • Anonymous

    August 23, 2012 at 12:32 am

    Thanks again Britt, you always have a wonderful and encouraging wonderful word to share. This was helpful, love it. 😉 E. Davis

  • Anonymous

    August 23, 2012 at 3:33 am

    Brittany, this is a blessing. Amen. You know I can testify to this. Being married is not a walk in the park at all! You must have counseling from experienced Godly married couples and of course God must be in the midst of your marriage. We did not get counseling when we first got married but I encourage others to do so because you will know what to expect. We will be celebrating 3 years of marriage September 6 praise God and we pray for many more. Keep us in prayers. Marriage can be beautiful. It relates to how God perceives us. God bless you Brit -Miechele Berkley

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